Alfie's Top Surgery Fund
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I need to get something off my breast...
Hello my name is Alfie Isaac Jallow . I’m 20 years old, a bit cheeky and a massive pain in the backside. So all in all just your average 20 year old lad. I love hanging out with my friends and I am also an actor. But what makes me a little different from most 20 year old lads, for those of you who don't already know, in 2016 I came out transgender. It has since been a wild journey full of success and achievements but also endless walls to climb and battles to fight.
It doesn’t always make sense to everyone when I say I don’t feel like I am who I’m meant to be. Of course it doesn’t, how can you not be you? 5 years ago, I flipped my world upside down because I wasn’t prepared to not live authentically. To not live a life full of love for others and myself because that just wouldn’t be a life at all. I learnt 5 years ago that there is so much love to live and give. It's now time to take the next step in that journey of self-love and becoming the person I was always meant to be.
I started testosterone 2 and a half years ago and things started to fall into place. I started to fall into place. From small things like my feet growing were massive milestones. My voice broke and I grew a pretty cool beard and I finally didn’t have to view myself from the inside out to smile. I went from boy to man and it saved my life.
I’m grateful for all the lifelines I've been given and the help to get me where i am today, but there’s still so much further to go. There’s no way to sugar coat it when we say that the support for transgender people on the NHS is near enough non-existent due to lack of funding and education in this field. This has resulted in me somewhat being completely let down by a system that is meant to help and nurture. Considering going private is the very last thing I ever wanted to do. If I had known 5 years ago that this was the only way, I would have saved the head and heart ache and started it then. I’ve now been told by the gender clinic that due to a number of reasons which are out of my control, the wait for me to initially see a surgeon is now 2 years+. I was prepared to wait it out. I thought that was my only option until I had the realisation that this also meant I would have to wait another two years for me to become whole. It's waiting for me to be able to start my life. There's so much more I want to do and achieve. This wait is holding me back from doing that without pain and discomfort and some days just a hatred of what I see and feel. I’m so desperate to start living. I'm so desperate to just be content. I’ve fought relentlessly for 5 years already, I have pushed and exhausted all options. Now I think it’s starting to get dangerous. Now is the time to act. How many other 20-year-old people do you know who have had to wait years before they can start living their lives authentically?
This surgery would give me the liberation to be myself. I dream of something that most people my age don’t even think about. I want to look in the mirror and see me, how I’m meant to be staring straight back at me. I want to be able to go to the beach with my friends in the summer and not worry about what to wear so I'm safe and comfortable, or about being able to go swimming. Granted I might need someone to teach me how to swim first, but this surgery will give me the freedom to do just that. That and so much more. It really is that simple.
Those who know me personally will know that I’m beyond stubborn, especially when asking for help and support but I’ve admitted that this is something I can't do on my own. So here I am, asking for anything you can spare; a moment of your time, a donation or simply sharing this page with someone that might be able to help. A donation however small or insignificant you may think it is, means the world. Each donation will get me that one step closer to me being myself and being happy. It will add up to the single most life changing event in my journey. Top surgery.
The one thing I promise you in return is that your act of kindness will be paid forward. I’m working tirelessly behind the scenes to make sure that those who come after me will have the support needed and to try and make a change so they don't have to go through the same battles that I have. I also promise to share the hilarious and carefree photos of me in armbands being taught to swim by my best mates. Support, safety and love is the key.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story. If you have any questions about me or my journey, or any suggestions of ways to achieve my target it would mean the world to me if you sent me a message or left a comment. Thank you.
Hello my name is Alfie Isaac Jallow . I’m 20 years old, a bit cheeky and a massive pain in the backside. So all in all just your average 20 year old lad. I love hanging out with my friends and I am also an actor. But what makes me a little different from most 20 year old lads, for those of you who don't already know, in 2016 I came out transgender. It has since been a wild journey full of success and achievements but also endless walls to climb and battles to fight.
It doesn’t always make sense to everyone when I say I don’t feel like I am who I’m meant to be. Of course it doesn’t, how can you not be you? 5 years ago, I flipped my world upside down because I wasn’t prepared to not live authentically. To not live a life full of love for others and myself because that just wouldn’t be a life at all. I learnt 5 years ago that there is so much love to live and give. It's now time to take the next step in that journey of self-love and becoming the person I was always meant to be.
I started testosterone 2 and a half years ago and things started to fall into place. I started to fall into place. From small things like my feet growing were massive milestones. My voice broke and I grew a pretty cool beard and I finally didn’t have to view myself from the inside out to smile. I went from boy to man and it saved my life.
I’m grateful for all the lifelines I've been given and the help to get me where i am today, but there’s still so much further to go. There’s no way to sugar coat it when we say that the support for transgender people on the NHS is near enough non-existent due to lack of funding and education in this field. This has resulted in me somewhat being completely let down by a system that is meant to help and nurture. Considering going private is the very last thing I ever wanted to do. If I had known 5 years ago that this was the only way, I would have saved the head and heart ache and started it then. I’ve now been told by the gender clinic that due to a number of reasons which are out of my control, the wait for me to initially see a surgeon is now 2 years+. I was prepared to wait it out. I thought that was my only option until I had the realisation that this also meant I would have to wait another two years for me to become whole. It's waiting for me to be able to start my life. There's so much more I want to do and achieve. This wait is holding me back from doing that without pain and discomfort and some days just a hatred of what I see and feel. I’m so desperate to start living. I'm so desperate to just be content. I’ve fought relentlessly for 5 years already, I have pushed and exhausted all options. Now I think it’s starting to get dangerous. Now is the time to act. How many other 20-year-old people do you know who have had to wait years before they can start living their lives authentically?
This surgery would give me the liberation to be myself. I dream of something that most people my age don’t even think about. I want to look in the mirror and see me, how I’m meant to be staring straight back at me. I want to be able to go to the beach with my friends in the summer and not worry about what to wear so I'm safe and comfortable, or about being able to go swimming. Granted I might need someone to teach me how to swim first, but this surgery will give me the freedom to do just that. That and so much more. It really is that simple.
Those who know me personally will know that I’m beyond stubborn, especially when asking for help and support but I’ve admitted that this is something I can't do on my own. So here I am, asking for anything you can spare; a moment of your time, a donation or simply sharing this page with someone that might be able to help. A donation however small or insignificant you may think it is, means the world. Each donation will get me that one step closer to me being myself and being happy. It will add up to the single most life changing event in my journey. Top surgery.
The one thing I promise you in return is that your act of kindness will be paid forward. I’m working tirelessly behind the scenes to make sure that those who come after me will have the support needed and to try and make a change so they don't have to go through the same battles that I have. I also promise to share the hilarious and carefree photos of me in armbands being taught to swim by my best mates. Support, safety and love is the key.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story. If you have any questions about me or my journey, or any suggestions of ways to achieve my target it would mean the world to me if you sent me a message or left a comment. Thank you.
Organizer
Alfie Jallow
Organizer
England
